Getting Things Started
Are you looking to have a threesome with your partner or a casual buddy? While a lot of guys have wild fantasies about what it would be like to have a threesome, the reality is often very different. One of the hardest things about finding yourself in a situation like this is bringing it up with the person you are seeing. Ideally, you want them to be just as into it as you are, so the last thing you want to do is force things.
You may find that your best bet is to bring it up casually, when the energy in the air is already sexual. It is often the case that throwing the idea out there as a joke gets the conversation started as you can plant the seeds of wonder and temptation; that said, you should not expect something to happen overnight. At the end of the day, you want the idea to be hers just as much as it is yours, this way, everyone feels like they were involved.
Setting Your Boundaries
When it comes to having a threesome, especially when involved with a long-term partner, it is important to know what your partner’s limits are. While she may be fine with sleeping with you and another woman, if you pay that other woman too much attention, it could cause problems. It may even be the case that she is fine with you enjoying oral sex with the third party, but vagina/anal sex is out of the question. While this may seem silly to you, it is important that you get a firm grip on what all parties involved are comfortable with.
Do You Want a Woman or a Man?
One of the biggest questions that leaps to mind when setting up a threesome is whether you will be bringing another man or woman into the bedroom. Needless to say, for most guys, it is the idea of having two women at the same time that gets them excited, however, your primary partner may have other ideas. While you may not want to bring another man into the bedroom, it may be something you end up doing if your partner wants to balance things out. Naturally, this will be influenced by how into you the girl in question is, someone who is really into you may not feel the need or even want to share herself with another man.
How to Find Someone
Once you have decided to have a threesome and all of the finer details have been sorted, the final question is, who will you welcome into your bedroom? Will it be a stranger or somebody you already know? While bringing in someone you know could potentially be easier and more comfortable, there may be long-term effects that come along with that. On the other hand, while there may be less drama with a stranger, either you or your partner may not feel as comfortable with them. Whatever you decide to do, you don’t have to rush into something right away.